Everyone has had those days where we feel uncomfortable in our own skin and out of place in the world. We feel like all eyes are on us and that we are constantly being judged from others. We want to compare ourselves to others. This pressure to fit it will change who you are and make you do things that you don’t even enjoy. This is why being your true self is so important.
It’s hard to be yourself when you are worried so much about being accepted and doing things based on what other people want. But when you truly learn to be yourself, it will lead to big advantages, growth and overall happiness.
Here is 5 strategies to being your true self and living a happier and healthier life.
1. Don’t Force Yourself to Do Something
The best thing that I learned as a young adult in college was to not force myself to do things just because everyone else is doing it.
You are your own human being and you can choose what you do. If you don’t enjoy doing something, don’t do it.
I genuinely think there is a time for everything and I’m all about having a good time, but sometime staying home and watching a movie is all I want to do. Don’t force yourself to do something you know your not going to enjoy. You will be much happier with your decision if it’s what you truly want.
2. Embrace what you love
I think one of the hardest things for people to learn is to actually embrace what they love. And it sounds so crazy. Why is the hardest thing for us to do, is to invest in the things that truly make us happy and feel fulfilled?
It should be simple. But society makes us think we should like certain things. It makes us feel judged for liking something different.
But guess what? The world would be really boring if everyone liked the same thing. If someone wants to judge you for liked something different than them, that is on them. Being your true self is about embracing what you love and will result in a lot more happiness.
3. Stop worrying about everyone else
Humans revolve around relationship and they are a very important aspect of our survival and quality of life. However, our involvement in any relationship can lead to worrying about what others are thinking and doing.
Constantly worrying about other people takes up so much energy. It takes away that energy we would normally put on ourselves.
Of course when bad things happen to the people we care about, it is natural and healthy to worry. But when it becomes too much or you are worried for small, meaningless reason, it can become a problem.
When you are focused too much on other people, it will affect the things that you do and the things that might be key to happiness and success in your own life.
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4. You can only control yourself
When it comes to being yourself, you control your actions and what you choose to do with your time. The same can be said for everyone else.
No matter how much we want to sometimes, you can only control yourself and nobody else.
Now, I know that working out makes me feel more clear headed, energized, and overall really good. If I waited for someone to go with me each time I wanted to workout, I would never go. Being your true self means doing things for yourself without the need of others.
You can’t control whether someone wants to workout with you but you can control if you go or not. Some can be said for anything. It took me a long time to learn that and I’m still working on it.
Take action for yourself!
5. It’s okay to be different
Every single one of us was made to be different. Not even twins are the exact same. We all have different minds and different ways of thinking. And you know what?
That’s beautiful!
How often do you look at someone and wish you had their hair or their body? Maybe you’ve looked at someone and wished that you could talk to people as easily as they can?
I know we are all guilty of doing this because we are wired that way. We look at the people around us and naturally compare them to ourselves.
But you have to remember that while you’re wishing you looked like them, they might be wishing they had something you have. Nobody is perfect and we all have different strengths and weaknesses.
Learn to embrace your strengths and love your flaws because that’s what make you, you.
Fully being your true self means that you are comfortable and like who you are. It means that everything you do will feel natural and feel real. All the friendships and relationships you have, will be genuine.
Being yourself is all about doing the thing that you love, knowing your own values, and living life how you want, regarding of everyone else. Being yourself is all about you.
Read the previous post in the Wellness Series: The Power of Your Mindset: Developing a Growth Mindset
“Once I began to realize that there were no rules and that my path didn’t have to look like everyone else’s, I relaxed and my whole world opened up.” – G. Brian Benson
“Let today be the day you stand strong in the truth of your beauty. Journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others.” ― Steve Maraboli
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